Dear H,
On the day you were born I was born too, in a sense. It was my first day being a father. Before that I had seen people parent, both well and badly, but I had never done it myself. It was like the first day I trained you to ride your bike or had you trace your first letter. We pretend that parents are experienced and children have to be taught; but the truth is that every step we take in parenting for a long time -- from the first diaper to the first "conversation" -- is our first. And most of the time nobody is around to help us do it. And even if they were, I doubt we would listen. In many ways I'm just as much a child as you are.